But how many of you soon saw that hope dwindle into frustration?  How many of you (and be honest now) started muttering things like:

- “It seems to work for other people, but I just can’t get it right.”

- “I’m frustrated that sometimes I can get it to work, but sometimes I can’t. What’s the trick?”

- “Why am I having so much trouble?”

- “I think the universe is against me.”

- “I’m trying very, VERY hard but still nothing is happening!”

Don’t worry, you’re not alone. About 97% of people also couldn’t make the Law of Attraction work for them the first time round. Think about it, just like anything else, you have to practice many times before you see success. A child doesn’t learn to walk without falling over a couple of times, right?

But in practice, everything is easier said and done. When you’re frustrated, it’s hard to stay positive. And it’s especially harder to stay positive when the evidence all around you is screams negativity like the unstable economy or senseless acts of violence such as those recently seen in Mumbai.

And do you know what happens when you fail to stay positive? That’s right – you start attracting negative things in to your life.

So how can you make the Law of Attraction work for you – without getting frustrated? How do those who successfully implement the Law of Attraction do it with such confidence and finesse?

Well, here’s three quick tips so you will never feel frustrated or tired of begging from the universe, because you know how to start manifesting like a pro.

1. Allow Yourself To Receive

Just like a lost child who approaches a police officer and asks, “Excuse me Sir, can you tell me how to go to the post office? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you?” Well, if the child goes on and on asking, the police officer can’t even give an answer, right?

Well, it’s the same thing with your mind. If the only thing your mind is doing is transmit, transmit, transmit, the universe — which is trying to respond — can’t give you a single thing because you’re not allowing yourself to receive!

So, have the confidence in yourself and stop exhausting yourself by running around person to person begging for riches, and then wondering why nobody is dropping a penny in your cup (Hint: It’s because you’re running away too fast for them before they can even reach for their wallets).

Just think of your desires and leave it out there, go away, and trust that your cup will be filled with gold coins (or whatever it is you asked for) when the time is right.

2. Be Patient With Yourself

Receiving takes time.

Sadly, many people give up just a couple of steps before the finish line because they’ve decided that if it’s not working by now, it’s never going to work at all. Worse still are those who throw in more and more energy because they think that with more resources, the results will come faster.

This is like expecting 9 mothers to conceive and deliver a baby in 1 month. You also can’t bake cookies in half the time by doubling the temperature. You’ll incinerate those cookies to ashes!

In simple terms: Everything in this world has a natural development time, and this fact will not change no matter what resources you throw at it.

So relax and be patient. Remember that you too, as part of the universe, are also governed by the laws of the universe, and you cannot change the natural development time.

If you remember this, you will less likely work yourself up into frustration, or worse, push yourself into a downward spiral of negativity.

3. Support and Educate Yourself

Like the child who is learning how to walk, you need support. You also need to guidance on how to do it, and also the role models to look up to.

Many people give up because they think that “The Secret” is the “be all and end all” solution. Well, it’s NOT. “The Secret” is just a small portion. It was never intended, and has never been, the whole answer.

Coming to the conclusion that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work when all you ever did to educate yourself was watch “The Secret” 19 times (without looking at changing the habits of other areas of your life) is like coming to the conclusion that exercising is not an effective way to lose weight because all you did is run on the treadmill for 2 hours a day (but you’re still stuffing yourself with fried foods and cheesecakes).

So seek and be hungry for new knowledge. Also, make an effort to be amongst people or communities where you can support each other, learn from each other and also share new knowledge that you have found.

While the Law of Attraction is not an overnight delivery service, it will indeed deliver, if you do your part too!

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Listening to her it made me think about what attracts us to our partners.  Most of the time we’ll fall into relationships, and into bed, with people all too quickly because there is something intense, some rush, some attraction, some spark, later to find that we shouldn’t have been so quick to drop our pants and bear our souls to that individual.  Whereas, the people that we aren’t attracted to, the normal, safe, more down to earth people, we often cross off on the first date.

I was likening it to a sugar high.  Myself I have a weakness for Starbucks, my only vice   And to get that quick buzz, that boost of energy, I’ll often find myself in the queue, card in hand, Mocha Frappuccino nicely nestled in the other.  Mmm, mmm.  Sugar high seeping through my veins, then slowly comes the crash…..  Need another, after a few days of this I find it hard to sleep.  I know I need to stop yet it tastes so good!  It costs me not only money, but also my health, my equilibrium, and I know all the staff on first name terms which is deeply humiliating…

Now, if I was being sensible, I would know that real energy, like real love, takes time.  I may have to go through the bad feelings of withdrawal from the sugar buzz, I may have to face my lack of energy, tiredness, maybe even boredom, the feelings I’m trying to hide from.  I would have to get off my arse and do some exercise and follow a healthy diet that didn’t involve the local coffee franchise

Now imagine if we applied that rule to our dating lives.

We could go for the partners that give us that rush, that excitement, that buzz.  Fall straight into bed with them, maybe fall straight in love, (we think), but soon enough find ourselves crashing out after the initial high, left with a nasty taste in our mouths, dazed and confused, wondering what we ever saw in the person.

Or we could do it the hard way.

Step off the wagon of intense, short lived relationships.  Face the feelings we have been hiding from, loneliness, lack of self esteem, boredom, unhappiness with our lives, maybe we’ve even been hiding from ourselves. Go through the withdrawal.  Follow a diet of healthy self esteem, get off our arses and do something with our lives that makes us feel complete and fulfilled. Be at peace.

This would take some time and initially it would be hard.  But in the long run, it would pay off…..

And if or when Mr or Mrs Right did come along, we would be so happy with ourselves and our lives, we wouldn’t be needing the same intense high, we would be happy for that feeling to grow with someone as we move deeper into genuinely discovering more about the person and about ourselves….

Very tongue in cheek!

Feel free to share your thought and comments below!

Enjoy!!

Having trod the path of highly spiritual, way out there and the like, I now find myself a little closer to earth in my belief systems and realities.  This is not because I doubt the path or work I did, it’s just that I’m a practical person at heart and I like to be able to put to use the things I learn, I like them to have practical application and empowering effects.

To explain this a bit better, I was learning about energies, chakras etc, yet not quite the basics, this was hardcore, kick arse “out there” material; Which planet I came from was always a hot topic.  What was my divine purpose? Would I suddenly “discover” it while meditating on some far off mountain or temple?  What level was I at spiritually and what colour was my aura?   I was doing activations of all kinds of spiritual bodies within myself, rainbow bridges to other galaxies, channelled messages etc etc, you get the picture.

If your not familiar with that world, there is plenty of it to look into.  It definitely had a place in my life and I learnt a lot, but how much could I practically apply?  While I certainly transformed throughout that period, and I encourage for others to seek that if that’s what they’re called to do, after a while I found I wasn’t getting any closer to the life I wanted.  Or that was, I wasn’t getting there fast enough.

I went on quite a few spiritual courses, had healings, did attunements in Egyptian pyramids, at Uluru (Aires Rock), the south of France, (home of the Da Vinci Code), Hawaii, Mt Shata and spent a lot of time in those places.  Some of the course leaders were fantastic, but as I went down the path of “spiritual / new age devotee”, I found more and more of the Guru’s out there were exactly that, trying to be Guru’s and therefore disempowering others.  Often people believed so much in these workshop leaders, who were (or not) psychic, that they would place their entire destiny in their hands.

I was on one mastership training in Hawaii, it was the final meeting of a year long course that had been done via the internet.  We all came to Hawaii from locations all over ther world.  The final retreat was a completion of the course and the course leader was going to channel our divine purpose for all of us, including myself.  Everyone was so excited that they were finally going to receive their divine purpose, their reason for coming to Earth, the thing that was going to make them happy at last, what they’d been waiting for.  Finally they had found someone that could dictate Gods plan for us all. (Please!).  I went into my session, we went in in groups of 3, he  spoke to us all beforehand asking us what we loved to do and did at home already.  He then proceeded to “channel” what we had all said back to us.  It was funny but, no one realised this but me, they had such faith in his abilities and psychic skills the thought never crossed their mind.  I think a few of them were disappointed with what they had been given as their “life purpose”, kind of an anticlimax, but no one wanted to say anything, as you know, psychologically, we will be biased towards someone we see as an expert or someone we favour, blindly at times.  If you want to know the validity of what he said to me, then when I tell you he also told me during a meditation that one of my hands was a dove and the other a turtle, you’ll probably get the picture!!  Afterward, he also advised me during one of his many channelling’s to sing “like the little bird instead of the Lion”, errr, if he didn’t like my voice then so what, it wasn’t X Factor!  And I paid about £4,500 for the compliment.

How much bullcrap can someone spout, and to disempower people enough to believe that they “need” someone else, someone, more enlightened, more spiritual, more psychic, to tell them what they want to know.  Talk about disempowering.  I thoroughly believe that if anyone tells you they can inform you of your role here on this little planet, then tell them to sod off.  I think a lot of them don’t realise what they are doing, including this one leader.  I think a lot of people out there have good intentions with what they are teaching, but don’t realise that this is the age of self empowerment rather than Guru worship, as that would be just another religion in a can really.

You are a beautiful, unique individual, that is perfectly capable of discovering what it is that YOU want to do with your life.  No one can tell you what is inherent inside of you.  As Neil Donald Walsch talks about in “The Secret”, there is no blackboard in the sky telling you what to do. I believed that for ages, that “God” had some mission for me that I had to carry out, and I was waiting to find out what is was, all the while missing my precious life.

I still have friends that believe this, and they also believe that when they have done “enough” work on themselves, that they will be rewarded financially, with a happy relationship and good friends.  And it’s sad that I see them make decisions on what they are “supposed” to do for the planet / divine purpose or listen to psychics rather than base their decisions on what they WANT to do for themselves.  Even if you reason that what you do is destined by God / Higher Self (What ever this is for you), if your placing that destiny outside yourself then your disempowering your own life. You need to make your life one of your own creation through confidence in your passions and self awareness.

Empowerment is:

Following your life path based on your own desires and wants

Tuning into your heart to see what decisions you should make

Believing in yourself and that you have a direct connection to a higher power without having to go through another person

Taking into account others peoples advice or guidance but only following it if it feels right

Empowerment is not:

Going to psychics

Thinking someone else can know whats best for you more than your own self

Believing one hand is a Dove and the other one a Turtle……….  need I say more

Would love to hear your comments or your own experiences below!

I believe this idea originates from “A Course In Miricles”, one of the most in depth spiritual workings of the modern world, and we now find this idea spreading through all areas and fields in the self development and spiritual markets….

If you use this idea as a way of growth, I think it can really make things a whole lot easier. Sometimes, half the battle is working out what it is you are actually feeling about a certain person, place or thing… Whereas, if you only have two opposites to choose from, you’re pretty much going to be dead on each time as to whether the emotion is positive or negative. And on top of that, if you were feeling love about an event, you wouldn’t be thinking you have to improve yourself around this issue, would ya!! ;o)

So, once you recognise you have an “issue” with something, (or maybe a better phrase would be, “when you recognise you are not acting from your highest potential in a situation” , then we can safely assume that some part of you is feeling fear on some level.. Leaving you with lots more time to work on the solution, rather than trying to figure out the problem…

So, for me the best thing I would do next, is write down what it is I feel this “fear” or negative emotion is. Once I do that, the idea is to transform it into Love. Well, how do you do that right??!! )

Well, this is the juicy bit….

First, I think it’s important to relax, and find time when you will be alone and undisturbed for about an hour. Have a pen and paper ready in case you want to write something down. It is important to relax first of all as this opens up a clear pathway to the unconscious mind where all belief systems, habits, fears and perceptions lie.
Take a few deep breaths and just centre yourself within. Come to a place of calmness and stillness.

Close your eyes and relax….

Just imagine you’re walking along a corridor with doors on either side…… take the time to allow this image to form fully in your mind. If you have any problems visulising, just imagine you can feel or hear this happening, have the intention and it will have the same effect….

So, as you walk along the corridor, you can hear the sound of your feet on the thick carpet, the feel of your feet sinking ever so slightly into it… You see the doors move past you slowly, slowly, slowly, until, there is one that catches your eye…

This door is the entrance to the room of your unconscious mind.. You stop at the door for a moment…. You know on the other side there will be a specific image, symbol or feeling… there will be something that represents the “fear” you are trying to rid yourself of…

You slowly turn the handle and enter the room…. On the other side, in complete saftey, you are presented with a symbol of your “fear”. You feel quite safe and relaxed here… What I want you to do, is see this symbol in front of you. In this room you are in complete control. You see that slowly, a violet flame starts to burn the symbol, transforming it into a new state…. it completely transforms the symbol. Take as long as you need to do this.. to see this now occuring….

What is left is another symbol for you, a beautiful symbol, one that fills your heart with freedom, love and joy.. One that symbolises everything you want your life to be, one that symbolises your true power… I want you to take this symbol, and put it within yourself… in a place that feels right for you…. take as long as you need with this and really enjoy the, feeling of love and empowerment this brings..

When you are ready, come out of the room, shutting the door begind you and walk back down the corridor. Slowly, become aware of your body and where you are in the room. Just slowly open your eyes and move around a bit, making sure you are fully in your body and back in the present..

And thats it….!

I will be posting some more blogs with some other techniques about transforming fear in the future,,,, so watch this space!!

OK, so what we focus on becomes real right? Right. But there is more to it than that….. So many people get stuck in the, “It must be hard to do” bull. I mean, this is a natural state of being right? Yes. Exactly. In fact it is something we are doing all the time, whether we are conscious or unconscious of it. So in really simple terms we just have to make sure that our thoughts are focused on what we want rather than what we dont want, or what we fear will go wrong….

The important inclusion in this is to include EMOTIONS. Did you know that the mind doesnt know the difference between a real and a vividly imagined event. So if you imagine vividly, you arouse emotions within your being and your body accepts the event as already having happened. When this occurs the universe reflects this to you in the physical or apparent “outward” reality of life… I hope that all made sense!!

So anyway, when we meditate, visualise, create our day and plan our realities, then it is important to cunjure up the emotion that goes with these visions and imaginings. (Which should be a natural and real easy process to do). But also make sure you can take the time to do this everyday.

If you can spend 10 minutes a day visualising what you really want and really feeling it, and having gratitude that it has already come into your reality, then I am 100% sure that your wants and desires will come to fruition.

When I say visulise this can be different for all people.  Some people are very visual and so it is easy for them to see things in their imagination.  Others are more feeling based and so the way that they experience the world is more strongly through their feelings, and auditory people experience it more through sounds.  Whatever is easiest for you is ok.  Start with what comes naturally and build it into a full sensory experience in your imagination.

Now, obviously, we cant contol other people right. For example, if we want a perfect relationship to manifest itself, then it is best to open ourselves up for some being who can provide that to walk into our lives, rather than ask for “So and So” to fall in love with us. You know what? If our self esteem is high enough, we would want to be in a relationship with someone who loves us for who we are rather than having to make them love us right?

So obviously I’m asking you to use your common sense here. I truly believe that we can have anything we want in life as long as it is in keeping with our true hearts desires and not coming from some form of lower ego need. But I do feel that it is important to understand that we should keep things open for the universe to pick the most ideal and harmonious way, thing or person to manifest into our lives. In other words, be open to recieving something better, more appropriate or more in line with our path.

OK, so lets look at how to focus on what you really want!

Well, this may seem obvious, but it is amazing how many people don’t actually know what it is that they want! Me included sometimes!

So, the first thing we can do is get creative. Put some time aside, maybe even now, and just dream…… Thats right, close your eyes, get comfortable, and just imagine what you would do if you could have and do anything. If you had all the money in the world, and all the resources and skills you needed, what would you been doing right now? Where would you live? Would you be in the same country, job, relationship? How would your life change? What kind of person would you become? Just spend a few minutes imagining what your dream life would be like and all the things that go with it.

It’s a good idea to do this regularly from now on, as what we want can constantly change and it helps to bring clarity to your ideas and desires. Another factor is that the more you imagine the easier it gets and the more vivid the experience will become.

From this excercise it is important to write down what you discover. You could either write it in story form, describing everything you imagined, saw, heard or felt and then take out the main points and put them in bullet / list form. Alternatively, list them straight away.

Be as specific as possible when you write your list, for example, don’t just write i want to manifest a car. Name the type of car, what colour it is, what year, how much you are happy to spend, if anything!! etc etc etc……….

It is important to look at this list regularly and of course, review it. Then you can go one step further and start to visualise and create more of what you want….. which I’ll be covering in my next post!

Until Then…..

Now some people believe in positive thinking, but this goes way beyond that…  Every thought we think, goes into manifesting the external circumstances in our lives.  In essence that means one hell of a lot of responsibility, and quite often a lot more than most people are prepared to handle or realise!

However, the way I look at it, its more a sense of power.  Just think, with your thoughts, you can create the reality you want.  In every single moment, what we focus on, is what we bring into being….!  Now how powerful does that make you feel? That you truly are the creator of your own reality!  Wow! Can you even concieve of that??!

Now some people may be a little sceptical on this one… and I dont blame you if you haven’t looked into the science behind it, yes there is proof you know! ;p

If your interested in the evidence, there are a couple of really great films you can watch, that explain it all in simple and really motivating terms.  The first is called “What the Bleep Do We Know?!” and the second is called “The Secret”.  Both are truly amazing.  I know you can get “What the Bleep” off Amazon now, but with “The Secret” you may need to go to their website… Just search on Google, and it’ll easily be top of the pile!

These films both explain some great manifestation techniques and universal laws..  Also, the quantum physics behind it.. now it sounds scary but it really isn’t! I promise!

Now if what ever you focus on enough, happens in your life, then how do you make sure you are focusing on the right things!?  Well, first you need to, become aware of your thoughts.  This isn’t always as easy as it sounds..!  Just start by everyday, reminding yourself to become aware of some of the random thoughts that go through you mind.  As you do this is will become easier..  If you catch yourself thinking something negative, stop, take a few deep breaths and turn it into its exact opposite, or the more positive version.. For example, if you are thinking “God why does this always happen to me, why am I always in debt??!!”, then turn that into, “I have an abundance of wealth flowing to me now!”.  With these kind of statements, often referred to as affirmations, it is important to phrase them in the first person, i.e. “I”, to phrase them in the present tense, even if it isn’t true.. and most importantly, to phrase them in the positive…

Once you’ve done this for a few days, you’ll notice now a difference in your thinking..  You’ll often catch yourself before you have time to let the thought run its course.  When this happens you know your onto a good thing..

From then, you can start on the next part, which is to focus more on what you really want……